Have you noticed that things just seem to go from bad to worse when you’re discussing money with your partner? If so, you’re not alone. Disagreements about money are one of the leading causes of divorce, but not because of the money. What’s more important than the problem is how you handle it, so it’s important to tread carefully.

Here, we will discuss important acts to avoid in order for you to have a healthy relationship with openness about money:

1. Bragging While Arguing

Money is a taboo thing that is not usually discussed and should not be discussed while arguing. It’s easy to use as a weapon to win the argument, but trust me, it won’t help at all and instead make the situation worse. Respecting each other’s financial status is very important in this scenario, so you should not degrade your partner by his/her financial status just to feel good about yourself. Money is a thing that you should both enjoy, and bragging while arguing is the last thing you want to do if you want a healthy relationship.

2. Judging

It’s important to remember that you married your partner because of love and not his/her financial status (hopefully). Every person has different capabilities and skills, and not all skills generate the same income. Even if more money needs to be made to cover essential bills, support your partner instead of judging them and tearing them down. When a person feels supported, especially with his/her interest, they can perform at their highest level and great things happen. Let love pick you up and not put you down!

3. Blaming

Blaming your partner only creates more problems. Regardless of whose fault it is, financial or otherwise, it’s still your responsibility to find a solution. If you are not happy about your family’s financial status, remember to appreciate the positive in your life. At the end of the day, blaming your partner won’t solve anything. What you should do is help each other grow, acknowledge your own shortcomings and solve problems as a team. In that way, you will have a more open relationship, and issues will be easier to solve.

In a relationship, money is not everything. It can provide you comfort and convenience, but putting it as a top priority can ruin more essential things in your marriage. Notice how what you should avoid in the conversation has more to do with the relationship than the money itself. Money makes the world go around, but it can also be a lonely place if you let it. So avoid bragging, blaming and judging, and you will be better able to discuss money with your partner comfortably. For more tips, book an appointment now!

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